Change My Name + Trenka's back
- If you haven't read this blog post yet, you probably should. It's from Harlow's Monkey on renaming in international adoption.
I can't remember how I found this - I think it was via Made in Korea - but it seemed to be everywhere. Anyway, the follow-up post (actually, a follow-up to a follow-up) wasn't everywhere, and maybe should be, too.
Short version: Australia, which also has that interesting regulation about mandatory voting, also makes it difficult to change an adopted kid's name. She reprints the gov't rationale, which is itemized nicely. It all makes sense to me....
Excerpt:
The New South Wales Law Reform Commission (LRC)... noted “The intercountry adoptee endures enormous change and dislocation in the process of being adopted overseas. The child is uprooted from all that is familiar, including relationships and language. The child’s name is one of the few remaining links with his or her birth culture. More importantly, though, the child’s name is an integral part of his or her identity”.
Keeping a child’s name is a sign of respect to the birth family and to the overseas country from which the child is adopted and allows the child’s racial and cultural identity to be valued and preserved.
Most children arriving from overseas know their name-even young babies respond to their name. This is the most compelling reason to keep this name.
Some reasons given to explain why parents want to change their child’s name:
* They wish to give the child a name to make them part of their family and give them the context of their Australian family.
While this is a reasonable desire, every adopted child gets the surname of their Australian family so the family is giving their name to their child.
*They feel changing an intercountry adoptee’s name to an Anglo name makes it easier for the child and they say other migrants coming to Australia do the same.
It is understandable that a parent wants to protect their child from difficulties. Still a migrant retains their surname so their cultural/racial heritage can be identified. So for example most people would realise that “a Peter Wong” is Chinese by his surname. The child lives with their parents/family members and maintains their native language and cultural/religious practices. An intercountry adoptee whose forename is changed to an Anglo one loses this part of their cultural/racial identity that would have been preserved if their forename were kept.
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- Following naming debates (if it can be called that - it's not like I've found a logical opposition viewpoint spelled out point-by-point in some pro-name-change blog) (although I will say while son ((son!)) does react to his Chinese name, Daughter never really did - we tried - I still do), I'm still waiting for someone to bring up the divine Roberta Flack singing "I Told Jesus" (since she sings that it'd be alright if he changed her name) and explaining the history of that one. I suspect it's a slave name/Middle Passage thing, but can't be sure.
I've written about naming before myself, in a few different places. I like Chinese names. I like names in general. I have this uncle....
Surfing around the links for these, I found Jane Jeong Trenka is back in the blogosphere. I'm looking forward to catching up with what she's been up to, because she's smart. And thoughtful. And sometimes funny.
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